This month’s Curve magazine confronts the lesbian wedding dilemma head-on: “be the best-dressed butch at your wedding,” urges author (and owner of The Butch Clothing Company) Shaz Riley, and indeed the photographs of her own wedding show her to be very butch, very chic, and obviously very happy.
Riley’s wedding was as conventional as anyone could imagine, but one of the joys of gay weddings is the fact that there are no rules. Be conventional. be outrageous. Be yourselves.
Over the past few years as I’ve officiated at lesbian weddings in Provincetown, I’ve seen amazing outfits. Both women in full bridal gowns with trains. Simple white dresses. Simple white suits. One bride in a dress, the other in linen trousers and shirt. All sorts of combinations, and every one perfect for the couple.
As Riley asks, “What’s right for you? Maybe no one wants a dress; maybe no one wants a suit. But if a suit or vest and pants is right for one or both of you, I urge you to consider all the elements that will make your day complete and then naturally you will find the answers. I mean, if you’re marrying on a beach or in a romantic field you may want a light linen you can wear with sandals. If you are making a commitment or a blessing in a church then you may want a formal, dashing suit, or imagine a sophisticated evening affair at a high end venue—you may consider a delightfully stylish satin, shawl collar, black dinner suit.”
Or you may mix and match. Many women I marry opt for the beach, and Herring Cove is a delightful place for a sunset wedding … and that sort of venue encourages, I think, fanciful thinking. It’s your wedding, why settle for anything less than a sartorial statement of who you are, both as individuals and as a couple?
Whatever you choose, know that it will be right for you. And once you have your outfits, make sure that you come to the Outer Cape and … get married in PTown!